Unity

Yet another thing I realized during the moving process was the concept of unity. We were loading the truck, and I looked at the friends helping, and I realized that all the psychological weight that my wife and I had been carrying by ourselves had magically been diminished significantly. It was not only being shared, but it was being cured, it was disappearing.

It's an amazing thing in itself that as husband and wife, we are a team, therefore we are never alone. That is such an amazing thing that we can come to take for granted. We can become too comfortable and instead of seeing the other person for who they are, we see them as a compilation of memories, ideas, and concepts; and we can start to want to control the other person, or have commentary on every little thing. We're all guilty of it in everyday relationships, whether it's husband-wife, father-son, mother-daughter, daughter-father, etc. - the whole myriad of relationships; we are all guilty at times. But it's so fascinating when making an effort to see our close friends anew that a deeper respect and love begins to surface.

And so, these friends were there, and I was just amazed at how with friendship, all fear dissipated. It's a shame we let things slip into habits of self-interest, and so friendship and unity die. I think it's really worth the effort to keep it alive, not in an artificial sense but in the sense of making the effort to really see people, which brings me on to yet another topic.

Prioritizing and Doing Your Best (part 2/2)

And so, we decided to just do our best with our time and quit bitching about it. And you know, in the grand scheme of things, it was so much better this way. We went ahead and got the U-Haul on Saturday and kept it overnight. The two guys who could still help us could do so much earlier in the day. So we got started right at 8:30 a.m. and it was a gorgeous day all day long, with a nice breeze. Having only 2 people was a blessing in disguise because I'm sure if there were 4 or 5 or 6 people, it would have just been hectic and chaotic. Besides, there's only one entrance to the house. One of the guys had to leave after loading, but one of my wife's friends came to help the unloading. So with a loaded truck we all headed to have a nice big lunch at Moe's. The guy left and I did most of the heavy lifting from there while my wife and her friend unloaded boxes. It all worked out great in the end. And so, it was a learning experience. I've always known intellectually when I'm given time to think about it that we are never faced with anything we can't handle in some way or another. We are human, we will die, and in the middle we can only do our best. Stress and pressure are natural in a way, but I think it's imperative that we are able to deal with it without taking it out on other people or becoming ridiculous, because that's what happens when we let it in.

Prioritizing and Doing Your Best (part 1/2)

Moving has definitely been a learning process. I'm always surprised to see lessons in the ordinary events of life that most people just look over, or maybe just aren't so hot at being able to put the learning into words (which is doesn't necessarily have to be). Anyways, so time seemed to be against me, but in it I've learned to keep my cool (or make a fool of myself by losing it) and just role with the punches. For instance, my wife and I had reserved a truck for Saturday and several coworkers were planning on meeting us to help. Everything seemed to be in place. Despite warnings about weather from numerous friends, we stayed our course. I suppose a sense of positivity was clouding sound judgment. And so Saturday morning came and the weather forecasted numerous showers. So it was then that we were faced with a judgment call. And so we decided to put it off until Sunday, which wasn't possible for several of our friends who had to recall their offer. But it was out of our hands now. Nonetheless, we decided to make use of our time and so we boxed more stuff up, and we also headed to the new house to clean up a bit (you know, people leave dirty tubs, counters, etc., made worse by the fact that one of the sellers broke his arm while doing a repair, so his wife was stressed with everything, it's no surprise she couldn't deep clean the house). So we cleaned more or less all day.

Busy

I've been so unbelievably busy lately as I've been moving, working, and schooling. The moving has really thrown a wrench in there, although I will be glad to have it all done with at the same time school is out for the summer. Besides, busy is always fun in the end when you look back like, "Woah, we did all that?... Cool."